It is really fun to be with someone who understands a lot of my basic assumptions about what life is and how it should be lived. in fact, come to think of it, who has been instrumental in giving shape* to some of the ideas i hold now to be self evident truths. However, as it happens, and what was very cruelly referred to as "mutual freaking out" i did make this (very hollywood-y?) assumption that, in all the things that are important to either of us, we will make sense to each other. i am starting to doubt that now, i think that while someone can be quite core to my world, no one person is enough to be my world - that is why the world is there! while i know, that if it starts to really matter, i will learn all about every sport in the world for dear mr., and do it willingly happily - it is completely unnecessary. so, i will ocassionally have more meaningful conversations with people i have known for a whole lot lessor time, and to be honest, for whom I care a whole lot less**, than I will with dear mr. but that is to be expected and it is alright. it is not the death of anything^!
To leave you with one of the 18 rules of living by Dalai Lama: "Remember that the best relationship is one
in which your love for each other exceeds^^ your need for each other."
**not a realised master, yet.
^haha - something i am working on; coming from where i do, i cannot help but ask the tolstoyan question - "All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." what kind of a family are we? and if my gut feeling is right in that we are a happy family, then how do we stay that way? do such statements even mean anything?
^^fascinating to realise that both need and love co-exist.
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